The only way you can get people to do anything is by giving them what they want. But what do an individual want? The famous philosopher and psychologist, Sigmund Freud, said that everything that an individual do springs from two motives: the sex urge and the desire to be great.
John Dewey, one of America’s profound philosophers, phrased it a bit differently. He said that the deepest urge in human nature is the desire to be important.
Men have wants, but what are those? What do they want? The things most people want are health and preservation of life, food, sleep, money and the things that money will buy, sexual gratification, a feeling of importance, the well-being of our children, and life in the hereafter.
In our interpersonal relations, we should never forget that all our associates are human beings and they hunger for appreciation. It is also what most people enjoy.
Whenever you go for work or step out for a camping trip or visit anyone you intend to meet, try to leave a friendly radiating impression all the time. You will be amazed how people will response to you in a very positive outcome. Make it to a point to praise people in front of other people each day. Pretty soon relationships will work out efficiently. Honest appreciations bring good results unlike criticisms and ridicules mostly bring negative atmosphere. Hurting people not only does damage them, it is never called for. Bitterness never promotes effective linkage. It will bring you to a dead-end road. It is not a pleasant road to take either.
If you plan to bring more people around you, there is one among many secrets that you can do to deal with people effectively and positively, and that is to give honest and sincere appreciation. This is a rock-solid and time tested advice which had been carried by hundreds and thousands of people up the ladder of success in their business o and their personal lives.